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Anger: what is socially acceptable?

 

Although anger is a natural emotion, it can be a challenge to express it appropriately in many situations.  The question is often asked: "How do I appropriately show anger without losing control or becoming aggressive?"  This is important to ask, and the answer can give you a clue as to how much anger impacts you in your daily life. 

 

Where does Anger come from?

 

Anger emerges from within and is unique to each individual.  For some, it can be difficult to predict and in some cases difficult to control.  Generally, anger is triggered as a result of a personal reaction to events, stressful circumstances, other people's behaviour, as well as physical factors like fatigue or discomfort, leading to low tolerance for frustration.

 

Once anger presents itself, it is up to you to decide what to do with it, how to express it, and how best to deal with it.  In rare instances, you may not be able to think clearly before reacting, and the result will be a loss of control.

 

Understanding the reasons why certain events, or the behaviour of others, can trigger anger in you is an important and complex set of questions to explore in Counselling.  Part of that exploration can include the discovery of factors such as the impact of modelling from your parents and/or significant others, deep set beliefs about the world and your place in it, and/or low tolerance for stress, frustration or change.

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Will Anger Management/counselling help me?

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Anger Management/Counselling can be a useful and helpful process designed to examine your emotional reactions to certain circumstances or events, and to reflect on what specific experiences may trigger anger within you - and why.

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My approach is designed to offer you better insight into your emotions (and specifically anger), so you can discover new ways to deal with the triggers when they emerge.  Using psychotherapeutic approaches to Anger Management, you can learn to develop new skills, greater awareness, and greater flexibility to deal with life stresses.  Learning new behaviours and strategies for managing life's challenges can have a positive impact on your approach to anger and how you express it.

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Dirk Hansen is a Certified Anger Management Specialist.

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